Story #6 Introvert or extrovert?

I used to be an extrovert, but I am not anymore. About three years ago, I had a mental shift, and my perspective did a complete 180. Deep down, I know what triggered this change, but on the surface, it was driven by the fact that I had spent so many years battling sickness and suddenly found some breathing space with the colostomy bag. It was then that I decided I wanted to embark on a completely new path. I won’t deny that it wasn’t easy, and it may have seemed selfish. However, having faith in oneself is essential before others can truly believe in you. It serves as the foundation for genuine confidence.

Here’s the deal: If you don’t actually do something to make the changes you want in your life, nothing will really change. And let’s be real, you’re not likely to take action if you don’t believe in yourself and your ability to make things happen. It’s partly because our brains like to keep us in our cosy comfort zones. But the other part is this: You’re lacking self-belief, which stops you from even trying to go after what you truly want.

Every action (or lack thereof) is based on a set of beliefs. So, instead of focusing on building confidence to take action, the first step is to change those beliefs.
Look within yourself, tap into your sense of identity, and rewrite the narrative you constantly tell yourself:
“I believe in my ability to figure things out as I go. I know I can handle any challenges that come my way. When the winds of change blow, I can adjust my sails. I have confidence in my capacity to overcome obstacles. I genuinely believe I can achieve what I set out to do.”

Self-belief serves as the spark that ignites your confidence. And it is this self-belief that propels you to embrace new experiences that extend beyond your comfort zone.

I’m also content with embracing my own flaws and mistakes in life. I am willing to take responsibility for any messes I create. I will raise my hand and say, “Yes, this is me – with all my imperfections.” I won’t make excuses.

This is why I now consider myself an introvert. I prefer to keep to myself. I have narrowed down my circle, and I find much greater happiness when I am not trying to please others.